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The PleasureME Retreat

Hosted by Tosh Patterson in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico

If you're a high-achieving woman who’s ready for some real ME time, deep rest, and a sacred return to your sensual, sexual and pleasure-filled self—this one-on-one retreat experience was intentionally designed just for you.

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Sis, Let’s Have a Heart-to-Heart…

When was the last time you let yourself be completely unrushed? (And be honest with me!)

I’m not talking about stolen moments between obligations. Not just a quick exhale before diving back in, either.

I mean just you, being fully present and unhurried, moving through your day with ease and intention.

When was the last time your pleasure wasn’t something to squeeze into the cracks of your life?

We’ve been conditioned to believe that ease is something we earn after we’ve checked every box, met every demand, and proven ourselves worthy of a break.

What if that was never true?

What if rest, pleasure, and deep, delicious satisfaction weren’t luxuries, but your birthrights?

What if your desires weren’t something to be negotiated down, but something to be honored in full?

There is a place where you don’t have to be needed, useful, or “on,” you know…

A place where pleasure isn’t an afterthought, but the entire purpose.

That’s exactly why I created the PleasureME Retreat

your private, three-day sanctuary in Mexico where you can finally exhale, be fully cared for, and remember what it feels like to put yourself first.

"This retreat was awesome. At first I thought it would be too long, but it wasn't enough. The service was unparalleled and I felt well cared for -- from everything like sessions to delicious food to the prep call before the retreat. Thank you for making the experience spectacular!"

-Dorinda L

Welcome to the PleasureME Retreat

This is your opportunity to slow down, shed the weight of the world, quiet the inner critic, and sink fully into the essence of who you are.

It’s a transformational reset designed to remind you that pleasure is your birthright.

For three decadent days, ease will be your only priority. Your only job will be to receive, to indulge, to rest, and to awaken the parts of yourself that have been neglected for far too long.

Here’s what awaits you:

A Luxurious 4-Day, 4-Night Stay in a 4-Star Hotel in Playa del Carmen, Mexico

A stunning property where plush bedding, tranquil surroundings, and impeccable service create the perfect setting for rest, pleasure, and deep replenishment.

Two, 1-Hour Therapeutic Sound Healing Massages

Experience the rich vibrations of singing bowls placed directly on your body, easing tension and recalibrating your nervous system.

Two, 3-Hour Private Pleasure Coaching Sessions

A safe, intimate space where you’ll explore and reclaim your pleasure through personalized guidance, free from guilt or shame.

Sensual Embodiment Activities

Reclaim the power of movement and sensation by choosing a sensual body movement class designed to bring you back into your body fully, freely, and without inhibition.

You’ll have the option to explore:

Yoga for Sensual Awakening: A slow, intentional flow that deepens breath, softens tension, and reconnects you to the pleasure of movement.
Pole Dancing: Embrace strength, fluidity, and self-expression as you learn to move with confidence and sensuality.
Salsa Dancing: Let the rhythm take over as you tap into passion, grace, and the natural seduction of Latin dance.
Water Dance: A fluid, freeing experience where movement meets the soothing embrace of water, allowing for deep relaxation and release.

This is an invitation to soften, open, and surrender by moving in a way that feels good while reclaiming your sensual, sovereign self.

Half-Day Outdoor Spa Experience

Skilled hands work away lingering stress, easing you into a state of deep relaxation.

Here, surrounded by nature, self-care becomes a ritual and by the end, you emerge refreshed, glowing, and completely at ease in your body.

Fresh Local Cuisine

With all meals included, you won’t have to worry about planning or decision-making.

Simply sit back, savor, and enjoy dishes crafted from fresh, locally sourced ingredients that nourish both body and soul.

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Private, Round-Trip

Airport Transfers

From the moment you arrive, you’ll be taken care of.

Relax into the experience knowing that seamless, round-trip ground transportation from Cancun International Airport has already been arranged for you.

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This is a luxury-level, bespoke retreat priced

in the mid-four figures.

Yes! I’m ready to get tuned in and turned on!

The Afterglow: How It Feels to Finally Receive

In case you’re wondering what it feels like to surrender to this experience…

To step away from the noise, the routine, the never-ending cycle of doing, and into a space where every part of you is held, seen, and poured into…

I’ll let Tanya tell you herself.

She arrived in Mexico searching. She felt stuck and was craving clarity while longing for something she couldn’t quite name.

But by the time she left, she was renewed, certain, and deeply connected to herself in a way she hadn’t felt in years.

The feelings she’s describing aren’t just for her. They’re for you, too.

It’s what happens when a woman finally gives herself permission to receive. So, if you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it.

The clarity, the renewal, the ease…

What you desire is already yours. All you have to do is say yes.

I want to learn more about the PleasureME Retreat

Testimonials

Meet Your Pleasure Guide, Tosh Patterson

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Tosh Patterson

If we haven’t met yet, I’m Tosh, a pleasure educator who left a six-figure career in higher education to help busy, high-achieving women reclaim their joy and pleasure.

My road to reclaiming my pleasure wasn’t accidental. It was intentional and very necessary.

And I don’t just teach it. I embody it.

Today, I’m based in Mexico, where my days begin with warm ocean breezes and nourishing rituals, meaningful work, and my life is enriched by travel and deep connection.

One of my greatest joys is helping women like you release stress, embrace pleasure, and step fully into the lives they deserve.

Life & Pleasure Coach

( Sound Healing Massage: Your Nervous System’s Reset Button )

You don’t realize how much tension you’re carrying until you release it.

At first, your mind clings to the noise, the stress, the to-do lists, and the overthinking. But then, as the vibrations hum through your body, something shifts.

Your shoulders drop. Your breath deepens. The constant bracing for what’s next melts away.

But these aren’t the delicate chimes of your yoga teacher’s singing bowls. The professional-grade instruments used in this session are engineered in Germany and are designed to create deep, penetrating vibrations that travel beyond the surface, reaching your nervous system at its core.

Here’s why it works:

Sound relaxes the mind. Vibrations relax the body.
Deep restoration happens at a cellular level.
Stress melts away, making space for pleasure.

Sound Healing Massage

What’s Possible When You Prioritize You

Burnout has become a way of life for too many high-achieving women.

But what happens when your body demands rest?

Karen, a senior executive in the Federal government, had spent years moving at an unsustainable pace: pushing through exhaustion, overworking, and neglecting her well-being.

It took a health scare for her to finally step away and confront the toll stress had taken on her body. Traditional forms of rest weren’t enough. She needed something deeper, something that could restore her at the core.

Here’s what she had to say after experiencing Sound Healing Massage with me:

Most women live in a chronic state of tension by rushing and overachieving.

But pleasure can’t thrive in a stressed-out body.

Sound Healing Massage is a powerful quantum healing experience that works on an energetic level to dissolve stagnant stress, rebalance your nervous system, and restore harmony throughout your entire being.

( Private Pleasure Coaching To Help You Reclaim Your Sacred Birthright )

When people hear Pleasure Coaching, they often think it’s all about sexual techniques and performance.

But real pleasure isn’t performative. It’s about rediscovering what feels good to you and reclaiming your right to experience it fully.

Pleasure is also multi-layered, which is why I created The Pleasure Triangle—a framework that teaches you how to:

Center pleasure as a way of life (not just in the bedroom).
Slow down, rest, and receive without guilt.
Deepen self-love and acceptance—because pleasure starts with YOU.

Most women focus on how to please their partner because society conditions us to prioritize others’ desires over our own.

But true pleasure – the deeply sustaining kind – starts from within.

How you engage with pleasure influences everything: your relationships, your leadership style, your confidence, and the way you move through the world.

Emerge from the PleasureME Retreat as the unapologetic, unshakable and unfuckwithable woman you’re ready to embody.

"I've so appreciated the gentle space you created for talking about pleasure, eroticism, and relationships (to ourselves and our partners). Our homework and conversations often took me out of my comfort zone in good and needed ways that helped me grow."

- Tina

Every woman I work with receives my full presence, my full care, my full expertise. You are not here to be part of a program. You are here to be witnessed, guided, and returned to yourself.

Reclaim Your Pleasure in Mexico

It’s Time To Get Tuned In and Turned On

Picture yourself pausing to finally make pleasure your number one priority.

The moment you arrive in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico, the sun wraps around you like a tender embrace. A soft breeze from the turquoise sea dances across your skin, carrying the scent of salt, hibiscus, and something else: sweet freedom.

The air is thick with warmth and possibility.

A driver is already waiting, ready to whisk you away to your private oasis.

The scent of sea salt lingers in the air as you sip something cool, something sweet, something just for you.

For the next three days, there are no blaring alarms. No intrusive emails demanding your attention. No one asking you for anything.

A deep breath fills your lungs, longer and fuller than it’s been in ages. The weight on your shoulders begins to dissolve. Muscles soften. Your jaw unclenches. The tension you’ve been carrying—perhaps without even realizing it—finally dissipates.

You are not in charge here. You are being taken care of.

And in that moment, you realize: this is what it feels like to truly exhale.

So, consider this a radical act of self-love and sovereignty.

Because you’ve spent years tending to everyone else.

Now, it’s your turn.

The question isn’t whether you deserve it. The question is: are you ready to let yourself go there?

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Before You Talk Yourself Out of It, Read This. (FAQs)

I know what happens when you feel something calling you forward. You feel that rush of excitement and the spark of possibility.

And then—almost as if on cue—the doubts creep in.

I know how easy it is to talk yourself out of what you desire.

Let this time be different. This time, instead of dismissing the part of you that craves more, let’s hold space for her. Because she’s been waiting long enough.

The women who say yes to this experience have had the same questions you do now.

And since you might be wondering the same things, here are a few answers to help you step fully into your decision.

Q: “What kind of investment does this experience require?”

From personalized pleasure coaching to immersive sound healing and deep embodiment work in paradise, every detail is designed to meet you exactly where you are and take you where you’re meant to go. Tosh only hosts a select few of these experiences each year to make sure that every woman who says yes receives her full presence, care, and expertise. This is a luxury-level, bespoke retreat priced in the mid-four figures.
Q: What kind of results have other women experienced from this retreat?

I know how easy it is to wonder if this will work for you. Here’s what past clients have said after reclaiming their time, their pleasure, and their peace: "This retreat was a recharge, a renewal, because I give so much of myself to other people, professionally as well as personally; it was everything just to be able to just relax on the beach, to have alone time to journal, to hike, to just take in vitamin D to recharge. It was just everything that I needed and I feel ready to get back home and to take my business the next level” — Kristian "In 2019 I hit a rut. I couldn’t see the pathway to wellness. I was completely burned out even though I claim I love what I do, which is true to some extent. In my life I’m always giving of myself and my time so I wanted to come to Mexico and give myself time to heal and rest and restore. I gained clarity after SHM (Sound Healing Massage). I felt refreshed and like I was in a deep meditative realm." — Tanya “What was interesting was that my husband went away for a guys weekend. When he came back, I found that we were both refreshed and had a lovely, romantic evening together. I think taking time to do pleasurable things for myself kept me from being unconsciously (or maybe not so unconsciously) being resentful of his time away.” — Anita Their stories are proof of what’s possible when you finally choose yourself.
Q: “Can I make the time in my already busy schedule for this?”

A: I hear you. Your days are already overflowing with meetings, deadlines, obligations, and the never-ending demands of being everything to everyone. But this retreat was designed with your full plate in mind. Here’s how it flows: Wednesday – Arrive in Playa del Carmen by early afternoon and settle into your hotel. You’ll have time to decompress and ease into the experience. Thursday–Saturday – Private sessions and healing experiences are thoughtfully spaced out, giving you time to rest, reflect, and receive without rushing. Sunday – Departure day. You’ll return home rested, replenished, and reconnected to yourself. Your responsibilities may still be there when you return. But you will be different. Rested. Replenished. Present. So ask yourself honestly: how much longer can you afford to be everything for everyone but you?
Q: “What’s included/not included?”

A: Once you reserve your experience, nearly everything is taken care of: Included: 4-night hotel stay in Playa del Carmen Daily meals made with fresh, local ingredients Two private Sound Healing Massages Two private Pleasure Coaching sessions One sensual embodiment activity of your choice Outdoor spa experience Round-trip airport transfers only from Cancun International Airport (CUN) Not included: Your round-trip flight to Cancun Any activities not listed above Travel insurance If you’re approved and your dates are confirmed, just pack your bags. I’ve got the rest.
Q: “Isn’t this indulgent and selfish?”

A: No. This is your reclamation. A woman who is well-rested, well-loved, and deeply satisfied speaks with certainty. She attracts what she desires effortlessly. She commands rooms without raising her voice. This is the power of a woman who is tuned in and turned on. Audre Lorde said it best: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” Prioritizing yourself is not only an act of defiance in a system never built for your thriving… It’s also an act of devotion because when you pour into yourself first, everything attached to you is also enriched.
Q: “What if I’m unsure about exploring pleasure?”

A: This retreat meets you where you are. Whether you're simply looking for deep rest or ready to embrace your sensual self, you will be guided with care, without pressure or judgment. Pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s about discovering what feels good, safe, and true for you.

Let me be the first to say it: pleasure is not a luxury. It is your divine birthright.

A woman in tune with her pleasure is magnetic. She is radiant, undeniable, and unforgettable.

She is not chasing. She is calling every single one of her desires in.

She moves through the world with a softness that doesn’t need to prove itself, yet a presence that cannot be ignored.

The woman you’re becoming is already reaching for you. All that’s left to do is take her hand.

Claim your PleasureME experience